i know of no one in this country (presumably we're talking about the US, or at least, not "Oriental" countries) where the small token a few dollars is an insult, and I've tipped an awful lot of people in my time.
Perhaps someone on RF could tell us if he/she has ever been offended when receiving a tip.
If the "eldery Orientals" don't feel the need to tip, well I'm fine with that. Until I turn into one, I'm not too worried about their practices.
Hahahaha...I pointed out a while ago on here that "Oriental" is an applicable term for furniture, not people.
The term, if you *must* point out ethnicity at all, is "Asian".
My mother still says "Oriental" or even worse, "THE Orientals"...as if they're all the same people. Akin to "THE Blacks".
I apologize if I offended you Ms. X1
, though I probably am as old, if not older, than your mother, and do think in those terms. The following explanation may clarify things for both you and tommyeats
I used the term "Orientals" in order to avoid listing all the various nationalities (Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc.) to which I was referring. I purposely did NOT
use the word Asian
, as the continent Asia includes Russia, India and various other countries, which in their history have not been known for the various etiquette practices of what we might call "extreme" courtesy (bowing, "saving face", etc.). I have read that, in the countries I was
referring to, it is/was proper etiquette to leave a little bit of food on your plate to indicate that your host/hostess has satisfied your hunger. I have also read that for some of these people, a tip is/was considered an insult, since it is taken as an indication that the diner feels that their host/hostess is poor, and cannot easily afford to feed them. I thought that this attitude was what Born in OKC
might have been referring to, since he mentioned Chinese restaurants which were patronized primarily
by Chinese customers.