Today i'm sad.

This morning my wife and i were divorced. Although probably the best for both of us, words cannot describe my feelings at this time. It hurts. I can only pray for her safety and well-being in the future.

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Originally posted by jeepguy

This morning my wife and i were divorced. Although probably the best for both of us, words cannot describe my feelings at this time. It hurts. I can only pray for her safety and well-being in the future.

I am so sorry for you having to go through this. I have been there and done that. Within a year, I felt like I was a whole different person and the best of my life followed that divorce. I know many divorced people and they all have felt the same as me.

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Originally posted by jeepguy

This morning my wife and i were divorced. Although probably the best for both of us, words cannot describe my feelings at this time. It hurts. I can only pray for her safety and well-being in the future.

Regardless of the reason, that was very well said.

Paul E. Smith
Knoxville, TN

I'm deeply sorry for you, jeepguy.

I'm sorry for your loss jeepguy. It may be what was needed, but it's a loss just the same. I've been there too. Doatsie

Mine was almost exactly a year ago.

24 and 1/2 years.

I've never had to write about it in public and am somewhat guarded.

It is also the beginning of something.

Write me to commiserate.

Are kids involved? In my case, I'm sure, things went easier because there were not.

Funny. I lost track of my other RF divorce pen pal due to an unfortunate hard drive crash ...

Been there done THAT. I thought my life had ended (at the time). I found that life gives you what you put into it, though. Hang in there, bro.

I am so sorry for your loss, Jeepguy. I lost my husband when he died, but I know you are hurting just as much as I did. We were married 26 years. He's been gone almost 10 years and I still feel the hurt. I'm sorry you are going through this. Take care of yourself.

Sorry for your sadness...hope things look up soon...maybe a trip to Scooter's Custard is in order. Ice cream always puts a smile on folks faces!

Hello All,
Jeepguy, I read your words and my heart sank with sorrow.
25 years ago I went through a divorce. At that time I thought
it was the worst experience of my life, but time has taught me
it was not, nevertheless, I still feel the pain of that time.
Divorce is like a death, only both of you are still alive.
I became a most popular fellow at our local bars, wasting alot
of money as I tried to drown my pain. I also met some good people.
To my shame, I had a number of relationships with women that I
would abandon usually after 2 weeks of a wonderful, whirlwind romance.
After 8 months of that life, one day I looked into my soul and felt shame. I decided to still visit the bars, but
become every lady's brother. No more romance for me. Then I met
my current wife and she screwed up my plans, and I discovered life
didn't have to be bleak.
I learnt to blend again in life.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Take Care,
Fieldthistle

I'm sorry to hear that you have gone through this life-changing event.

Believe me, I know just how devastated one can feel as a result of this. But, as friends told me when I was in pain, "when one door closes, another door opens". I thought that this was just a cliche, but it really did turn out to be true.

Just remember that things take time, whether it is getting over the hurt or finding a new special person. Don't rush anything, and in time you will find that life can be rewarding again.

In the meantime, I think that it is best to try to occupy yourself with work and other activities, rather than to constantly think about the past. Hopefully your friends can give you the support and companionship that you need as you begin the healing process.

Sorrry to hear that Buddy,Hang in there.We are all going thru some trying times right now ,you are not alone.

it will get better, Jeepguy, give yourself time...as Tedbear said, when one door closes, another one opens - just remember, when the time is right, don't be staring so hard at the closed door that you miss the open one...
best wishes to you...

I'm sorry Jeepguy. The pain will get better in time but it will never go away entirely. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Today I am sad,

My son and daughter-in-law, recently, about two weeks ago, had twin sons, a bit premature, a bit under 3lbs each, they were doing really well, gained a bit of weight, lungs were in pretty good shape, they were both screamers, which is good for preemies. However, they both died earlier today. We are told that it was sudden infant death syndrome. The staff at the hospital were great, took heroic measures, and then cried with us, however it wasn't to be. Life is not so great today.

Now that's a kick in the ass. Really sory to hear that. Chow Jim

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Originally posted by CCJPO

Today I am sad,

My son and daughter-in-law, recently, about two weeks ago, had twin sons, a bit premature, a bit under 3lbs each, they were doing really well, gained a bit of weight, lungs were in pretty good shape, they were both screamers, which is good for preemies. However, they both died earlier today. We are told that it was sudden infant death syndrome. The staff at the hospital were great, took heroic measures, and then cried with us, however it wasn't to be. Life is not so great today.

Ouch.

I woke up this morning feeling"out of sorts".

1. My garden looks FABULOUS so far, but we are facing a drought so it looks like lots of hard work down the drain.

2. My health ain't all that great right now, I love my doctor but he seems to regard me as a mere pin cushion these days, the Episode Recorder that stores info about my heart makes me look like R2-D2 and beeps at the most inopportune moments.

3. My latest canine acquisition chews EVERYTHING in sight except his toys. I still can't shake the memory of dragging his dead siblings out of the road and taking his crippled little body to the vet. Cost me $375.00 for the pins in his rear legs.

4. I was making cupcakes yesterday and burnt them.:(

And so forth.........
Then I saw this thread this morning and clicked on it positively SURE I could bee-atch and moan with the best of youse. It didn't happen that way. Assa matter/of/fact I felt terribly ashamed of myself, and realized what a true self-pitying A$$hole I can be.

I still hurt about my divorce from 1998, but in fact he was an abusive monster and in reality God took care of me by getting me OUT of the relationship without dying or serving time for blowing his worthless head off. Many women don't.
I'm gonna get all nostalgic sometimes and miss that psycho?
Cripes.....jeepguy, sounds like you had a real loving healthy thing going on. The fact that you wish her the best speaks highly of your relationship. I am so sorry for your sadness and loss.

I am thankful that you shared it here because it made me see I have no reason to mourn my divorce. I should feel grateful to have gotten one, do you understand? Thanks for your post.

CCJPO-
You experiencing the loss of your twin grandchildren,
especially when they were improving and hope was STRONGER every day just totally rocked me. Not in a "Rock and Roll" way, but in a "The earth is shaking under my feet" way.

All my drama....all my BS...all my self-tortured little scenarios look pretty GD ridiculous.

My heart breaks for you, my friend. And your son and his wife.

My deepest condolences,
Witch

Jeepguy, I know divorce is rough, but for you to also think highly of her is a good thing. I have a great relationship w/my ex even though he remarried soon after our divorce over 20 years ago and I did not. I was greatful he found someone.

CCJPO, what can I say. How sad for you and your family.

Please everyone, pray for me. I found out about a month ago that I had breast cancer. I had the cancer removed and the doctor feels certain that he got it all. I start radiation treatments (every day for 7 weeks) next week. I am lucky that I did not have any pain from the operation and I have heald very well.

Jeepguy, sorry for your pain.
" Love is as perennial as the grass", your next Spring is not far off, I'm sure!

Dear CCJPO,
I am sorry for your lost...it is our lost as well.
Our world will never know of the beauty and gifts
they would have shared with us. And I am sorry for
that.
The pain of losing children...please know that I
praying..lamenting with your son and daughter-in-law,
(she's your daughter now).
May God walk with you and your family as you heal
and live the love that happens after such sorrow.
Please...
Take Care,
Fieldthistle

CCJPO - my heart aches for you and your family. I will say a prayer for your little angels.

Sassy - a message of encouragement here. My Grandmother (also a fine Southern Lady from Alabama) had breast cancer in the old radical-masectomy days of 1972. We were blessed to have her with us until 2003, when she finished up her allotted 94-1/2 years. I wish the same success for you!

It was a relatively short marriage but a pretty good one. We just couldn't see eye to eye in many areas. Getting married for the first time at 45 wasn't such a hot idea for me. Anyway no one suffered financially and we've got a realtor looking for her. Thanks for the kind words everyone, they help.

Hello Jeepguy,
You are a good man. Your thoughts for her well-being testify
to your worth.
Please, don't give up on marriage. Believe me, the second time
can better than the first.
Take Care,
Fieldthistle

SassyGritsAL, I've been through the same thing three years ago. The fact that they're doing radiation and not chemo and that the surgery was no too radical (Partial mastectomy? lumpectomy?) points to the prabable early detection and high probability of full cure. My worst side effect was fear. Picture me holding your hand. It's gonna be OK.

Please, all you ladies, keep up with your mammmograms and self exams. Give yourself the best chance.

I have kept my nose out of this because my 25th anniversary was April 30th. We have had some great problems in our time togehter but have made it through them. I know many folks who have had twenty plus year marriages and then gone on to better relationships after as one friend said "the kids moved out and the dogs died". I am not trying to make light of your suffering Jeepguy but you have to keep your head up, move on and don't eat a gun.

To CCJPO...words cannot express my sorrow at your loss. It is small but your only solice is that those two special children are in a better place. Empty words that sound so hollow but we must believe it. I have done terrible things in my life yet I KNOW that when I say my prayers and ask for special help for CCJPO's grandchildren it will be heard.

Roadfood folks: as many of you know, I have had major issues in the last month or two. I took some other folks advice, mainly RickF, and decided on the positive route.

You can accentuate the postive or dwell on the negative. Believe me it is easy to do as far as dwelling on the negative. I chose the positive. It is not always easy to do but I have done it. I think you can ask the Mayor if I have done it well.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Use it.

Paul E. Smith
Knoxville, TN

Paul is doing as well or better than anyone I have known who experienced the loss he has. Everyone has to deal with adversity in their own way, but listening to the counsel and advice of friends and family can help a person make the decisions necessary to procede thru those hard times.

As I told Jeepguy earlier today, I was a total wreck for a year after my divorce. It took time and the emotional support of my family to help me get re-established in life. The results, with over two decades of hindsight, are better than anything I could have hoped for.

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Originally posted by CCJPO

Today I am sad,

My son and daughter-in-law, recently, about two weeks ago, had twin sons, a bit premature, a bit under 3lbs each, they were doing really well, gained a bit of weight, lungs were in pretty good shape, they were both screamers, which is good for preemies. However, they both died earlier today. We are told that it was sudden infant death syndrome. The staff at the hospital were great, took heroic measures, and then cried with us, however it wasn't to be. Life is not so great today.

I am so sorry for your horrific loss and pain. My heart breaks for you and your family. They are at peace with the angels.

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Originally posted by SassyGritsAL

Jeepguy, I know divorce is rough, but for you to also think highly of her is a good thing. I have a great relationship w/my ex even though he remarried soon after our divorce over 20 years ago and I did not. I was greatful he found someone.

CCJPO, what can I say. How sad for you and your family.

Please everyone, pray for me. I found out about a month ago that I had breast cancer. I had the cancer removed and the doctor feels certain that he got it all. I start radiation treatments (every day for 7 weeks) next week. I am lucky that I did not have any pain from the operation and I have heald very well.

My prayers are for your full recovery and blessings for a full and productive life ahead.