When I'm presented with a question like this, I always have to wax nostalgic, so here goes:
My first
favorite real bbq was at
Arthur Bryant's in KC. This would have been mid-70's. I had loved the pork ribs at
Crosstown and the hot links at
Big Joe's Snack Shack in Springfield, MO, but Bryant's was heaven. I haven't been back there in over 4 years, but I loved it still the last time I was there.
In the early 80's,
Louie Mueller's in Taylor, TX was my nirvana. That was when Fred Fontaine was the pitmaster. Best brisket and "gravy" available then. It will never again be like it was.
Also in the 80's, the
Southside in Elgin, TX had tremendous sausage and mutton, at the original location downtown.
Kreuz in Lockhart became my favorite for central TX bbq many moons ago. To this day, it's the one I recommend above all others. Their
sausage and
beef shoulder clod are unsurpassed, as far as I'm concerned. Although I will not argue with anyone who thinks that
Luling City Market is the best (the one in Luling, not Houston), I still go with Kreuz.
As for pulled-pork,
Hay's Smokehouse in Lexington, TN (whole-hog pork) is the finest place in the country by far.
P.S. - Had to come back and mention the best sausage I've ever eaten.
Charlie's in Smithville, TX (some folks called this place Charles) made their own sausage with a combo of beef and pork. Also made their own sauce, and the experience was unlike anything I've ever had, sausage-wise.
I learned of this place after reading a review by Michael Stern sometime in 2002. I went there as much as I could (about 120 miles round-trip for me) until Charles died in early 2003, when they closed.