Asking For Tips
This is something which has driven me crazy for a long time. After my husband and I have had our dinner and the server comes for the bill, s/he will almost invariably ask "do you need change?"
We tip well, but I feel this question is basically asking if s/he can keep the change. Probably they can, but I really resent being put in that position.
A better statement, as I have gently told many servers is "I'll be right back with your change." This allows us the option of getting our change or saying "no, that's fine; we're all set.
Everybody would be happy.
I know servers are busy, but I think that asking if I need change is tacky and a blatant request for a tip, which they would get anyway.
This has happened in some very upscale restaurants, and I think it's terrible.